Does Every Narcissist Have Their Own Harem?

Not every narcissist has a harem. While the idea may seem prevalent, the reality is far more nuanced. In their minds, they often have numerous options, but externally, obtaining a harem depends on certain criteria such as age, money, and physical appearance.

Covert narcissists, particularly malignant ones, find intimacy distasteful and detest any demands placed on their body. It exposes them to scrutiny and vulnerability, which they typically strive to avoid. Covert malignant narcissists also use sex as a weapon, leveraging the power of intimacy and attraction to make their partners feel unworthy, inattentive, and unheard. They act aggressively in the beginning but gradually withdraw affection to pin the blame on their partners.

Not All Narcissists Are Superstuds

Not every narcissist is a super stud; many take a passive or reluctant role in sexual matters. They engage in sexual activities initially to fulfill their immature emotional needs. Slowly, they distance themselves, making their partners feel responsible for the withdrawal of affection.

Focusing on the Need for Admiration and Attention

Narcissists are driven by a need for admiration and attention, but this doesn't always translate into having a harem. They seek emotional gratification through flattery, praise, and attention rather than through sex alone. For many narcissists, sex is merely a means to an end. Males and females who do not genuinely like the opposite sex but still want to engage in sexual activity often tolerate their partners to satisfy their deeper emotional cravings.

Supply and Emotional Gratification

The true desire for narcissists lies in the supply of admiring and attentive partners, not a harem of admirers. This supply can come from anyone of either gender as long as they fulfill the narcissist's craving for praise and attention. Narcissists often attract other narcissists, who are willing to engage in relationships to satisfy their own emotional needs. Both believe they are the ones in control, with the delusion that the other loves them while they are using the other for emotional supply.

Contrary to popular belief, narcissists do not always seek to control or dominate their partners. Instead, they tactically use emotional and sexual prowess to manipulate situations. They often get used and abused by others, just as they use and abuse their partners. In their delusional world, they collect any source of supply, whether it be sexual or emotional, as long as it satisfies their needs.

Conclusion

The reality of narcissists and their harem-like behaviors is far more complex. While the idea of a harem can be seductive, the truth is that not every narcissist has a harem. Their lives are filled with delusions and manipulative tactics, and they often fall victim to their own schemes.

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